The human body is designed to respond positively to a soothing touch. Massage therapy is created for this purpose. People who are physically exhausted look for massage therapists to relax their mind and body, enhance their blood flow, and boost their mood.
In relationships, a massage is a great tool to spice up your life. It not only deepens your intimacy but also improves your relationship. Aside from that, a massage can also be a useful tool to boost your sexual performance and a bedroom trick you can use to turn your exasperated partner into a vigorous sexual ally.
Even if sex isn’t in your mind while generously giving her a relaxing massage, she’ll find herself hankering for sex once your massage prowess hits the right spots. But before going to the erotic massage techniques, here are the good things your partner can enjoy from an erotic massage.
Benefits of erotic massage:
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Rejuvenates the body physically and sexually
Touch is like magic to the senses. Studies show that babies who had challenges during birth were able to recover much easily when exposed to touch therapy from parents and caregivers. The same is true for adults as well. Health professionals recommend 16 hugs a day for individuals to improve their overall health and wellbeing. Even a friend’s loving touch can be soothing in times of sorrow.
This is because our brains are wired to respond positively to touch or massage. Every time someone touches us, the act triggers a stimulating effect on the endocrine glands to produce more serotonin, which is a contributor to feelings of happiness and wellbeing. Touch also stimulates the production of DHEA, which is a hormone that is converted to testosterone and estrogen. The levels of oxytocin, which is known as the love hormone, also increase when a person is being touched. With all these hormones coming into action, a person’s sexual health improves during a massage.
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Increases sexual desire and the ability to reach orgasm
One study found an increase in women’s oxytocin levels after receiving a 15-minute Swedish massage. Oxytocin is a hormone released by both men and women during sexual orgasm. Because massage led women to have an increased desire for sex and the ability to reach orgasm, researchers believed that massage is beneficial to women’s sexuality.
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Decreases sexual performance anxiety
Another study found that couples who give each other a massage have lower levels of performance anxiety.
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Improves intimacy
Erotic massage also works as extended foreplay. Because of this, couples strengthen and improve their intimacy while giving each other a good massage. It’s like they’re taking the time to explore each other’s body and sensuality.
Here’s how to awaken your partner’s sexual desire and give her the best erotic massage of her life:
1. Give her a hint
Put your arms on her shoulder and rub it a bit. Then ask if she likes a massage. If she’ll say yes, which is often the case, say you’ll give her one later. Simply imagining herself receiving a good massage creates excitement and good feeling.
2. Create a cozy atmosphere
Make the place comfortable enough for better sex later. This is the whole idea. Do everything to support this idea. Give her an environment that feels comfortable and relaxing to the senses. A cluttered surrounding isn’t ideal for sex. Make sure to clear the pile of clothes on the floor or on the bed. Let there be no bright lights in the room. Light scented candles if you have any. They can enhance the mood and give the room a fresh and sexy scent.
3. Play soothing music
The right music helps relax a cluttered mind. Choose a relaxing and sexy playlist. Classical songs are a good option. You can also choose from the hottest sexy songs and massage music from Spotify.
4. Use massage oils
Massage oils enhance the relaxation benefits one can get in a massage. It also allows your hands to slide smoothly on her skin. The scent of massage oils also boosts the ambiance necessary to make her feel truly relaxed.
5. Keep it slow
Women prefer slow moves. Resist the urge to rush everything. Remember, you’re there to give her a massage. But just because it’s erotic, you’ll rapidly squeeze her breast. Save the best for later. Help her to relax by rubbing her upper back and giving her a thorough massage. Allow your hands to touch her in a teasing way and slowly build things up. Create anticipation as you glide your hands all over her skin and in sync with the rhythm of the track you’re playing.
6. Take off your shirt
Since you’re not giving her a hint that you intend to have this massage to move on to the next level, say you’re taking your shirt off to avoid getting oil on it.
7. Continue to give her a good massage on the lower part
After you’re done kneading her upper and lower back, continue with her arms and hands. Move your fingers slowly and gently. Then go down and start with the feet. Massaging the soles of the feet is quite comforting. Start with one foot and do the same with the other foot. Then slowly move upwards towards the legs and thighs.
8. Turn her on with whispers
Whisper softly into her ear and ask if she likes the pressure or if she wants it harder. Tell her how sexy she is if you’ve known each other for a short while. Or if you’ve been together for a longer time, tell her how sexy she still is and how you still love touching her skin. Ask her how she feels and gather cues from her response.
9. Increase anticipation
Slowly move your hands to her thighs and up. One hand outside and the other inside. Move your hand slowly up at the base of her butt then down again. Repeat the process five times on each thigh. Then glide your hands to the sides of her butt and on top letting your fingers nearly touch her vagina but missing it. Moving your hand towards there and retrieving them creates anticipation.
10. Look for the signs
By now, she must have been turned on. If she moans while you let your fingers touch the lips of her vagina lightly as if you’re massaging them, it’s a sign you’d been waiting for. You can let your hands stay there as you begin kissing her or you can move your hands to rub her shoulders while slowly kissing her in that area. Then allow things to go wherever they lead you.
